The new hot (and sweaty) place to meet a mate

CrossFit Couple

Derek and Stephanie Javarone: “Neither one of us joined Crossfit looking for love, but CrossFit breaks down all barriers and allows you to meet people extremely quickly. You’re all going through a painful shared experience and cheering each other on.”


Derek and Stephanie Javarone first met over box jumps, not beers. “I always found him to be pretty witty, and I think he liked that I could beat him in some WODs (Workouts of the Day) and keep up with the boys,” Stephanie says. Their trainer, CrossFit Gantry owner Jay Hachadoorian, attended their wedding three years later.

The Javarones are just one example of a growing phenomenon: CrossFit boxes (AKA gyms) now rival bar scenes when it comes to getting a date, and lots of devotees are finding lasting love while lifting.

So why does CrossFit often play Cupid?

“It’s really conducive to people getting to know each other,” says Christa Guidi, a 34-year-old public-relations professional who met her boyfriend at CrossFit 215 in Philadelphia. Unlike lonely treadmill workouts at the gym or spin classes where you pedal silently in the dark, participants work closely together and spot each other, which creates more chances for chatting—and flirtation.

More so than other workouts, a team mentality pervades, and communities often form that extend well beyond the CrossFit box—to mud runs and Paleo barbecues.

CrossFit dating

“The atmosphere lends itself to [meeting people] because it’s very team oriented,” says Nicole Tiberia of CrossFit Greenpoint.

CrossFit also draws a certain kind of person—famously Type As who are up for a challenge. So it can be a barometer for having other things in common and compatibility.

“I think if you do CrossFit, you’re already the kind of person who likes to push themselves and is adventurous,” explains Nicole Tiberia, who is married to CrossFit Greenpoint co-owner Mike Tiberia and has seen lots of couples get together at their box. “And you really feel like you bond with someone when you’re doing these hard workouts together,” she says.

Kelly Plowe, a 33-year-old dietician, definitely felt that bond with her boyfriend, who she met at CrossFit LA, and has now been with for a year and a half. “There’s a different level of trust you have with someone when you work out with them,” she explains. “Plus, they’ve seen you at your worst. I get really beet red and sweaty and my hair goes everywhere—so you can only go up from there.” (Of course, that’s not to underestimate the power of endorphins, Spandex, and bulging muscles.)

One thing all these couples also have in common? After finding each other, they continue to do CrossFit, usually together. “He’s much more skilled and stronger than me, so he used to partner with the strong dudes, but he says he likes partnering with me now. We get to communicate and work through it,” Plowe says.

Stephanie Javarone agrees.We are approaching our first year of marriage and still CrossFitting. A couple that works out together stays together!” —Lisa Elaine Held

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  1. manhattan facelift surgeon
    May 25th, 2013 at 12:27 pm

    Putting your best face (and body!) forward is always a great way to meet a new guy!

  2. August 15th, 2013 at 11:13 pm

    I think that it’s great to be crushing on someone especially when you’re in a workout place. We all know that we try hard to look cool so that means we workout harder. We all have a fitter body then.

  3. August 25th, 2013 at 1:58 am

    I guess it makes sense, they have something in common. I do know people who have met at the gym before so maybe something in that. You don’t look your best when totally sweaty but hey! Who cares. Great read.

  4. July 29th, 2014 at 11:55 am

    I am single and I have not always thought going to the gym is such a fun idea but it looks like a great way to meet guys. Thanks for the idea.

  5. September 30th, 2014 at 12:42 pm

    I have met my wife at the gym!!!! No Makeup and no artificial is the best way to know how she is “au naturel” !!! Great Article

  6. September 30th, 2014 at 2:42 pm

    Loved this article. Maybe I should use this gym membership that I have been carrying for many months…. I am so bad at actually going to the gym…. but if its help with dating I am welling to give it another shot !! lol

  7. October 2nd, 2014 at 9:33 pm

    Right on! I have a terrible crush on one guy at my gym and your article may have been the element to make the move!!! Wish me luck

  8. October 13th, 2014 at 1:08 pm

    Right On with this article! Ahaha

  9. Justin
    November 8th, 2014 at 12:43 pm

    Meeting someone that have healthy habits is hard and I think the gym is a great place to start dating because you know that at least you shared similar value to begin with. Honestly, I have not anything serious yet but I really think that it could happen!

  10. Sam
    February 25th, 2015 at 8:47 am

    I have a gym membership but havent benn for ages. I need to start going back. This article has just motivated me more to get back there. I have more than enough reasons to go back.

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