Vibrators Are Far From the Only Sex Toys—Here Are 12 Strokers and Masturbators Sexperts Recommend for Penis-Owners

Ice, ice baby. Meet the Ice Lady, who’s hotter than its name suggests. It’s made out of transparent soft plastic, and it’s textured with bumps, nodules , and spirals throughout. The stroker itself is 9.75-inches long, but the insertable length is 8.5 -inches. It’s also highly rated, with one reviewer saying it changed their mind about fleshlights all together. “[I thought they were] uncomfortable and too tight but alas, I was wrong!”

Queen has pros and cons for this toy, so listen up. “It’s good for people who like the idea of seeing their penis through the material, and Fleshlight has a good reputation,” says Queen. “This will be especially appropriate for users who like to fantasize about [vulvas],” since it’s yonic (meaning shaped like a vulva). As far as her cons? “There’s no vibration or anything, but a user desiring that could try tucking a waterproof, small vibrator into the sleeve, or using a strong vibe against the outside of the sleeve,” Queen suggests.

The Fleshlight Ice Butt is pretty much exactly the same as the Fleshlight Ice Lady. Same materials, same total and insertable lengths (9.75 inches and 8.5 inches, respectively), but with one key difference—instead of the opening being shaped to look like a vulva, the opening is shaped like an anus. “This is good for those who eroticize anal,” says Queen.

One reviewer did note that the entrance is really tight, but quickly added, “that’s part of the fun.” Like the Ice Lady, the Ice Butt is also highly rated. On the Fleshlight website, it has 95 reviews total—each of them are five stars. On Amazon, the toy has 233 reviews and averaged 4.4 stars. A glowing review: “Best sex toy ever! Go at it for hours with this thing. It’s always at my beside. Even take it on vacations.”

“The Arcwave Voy is designed for penis stimulation, but is a device you control with your own hands,” says Lehmiller. “It comes at a lower price point than the strokers with high-tech features, but offers a unique advantage in being adjustable for tightness.” This allows you to customize the Voy to the exact “grip” you’d like to feel, “which is very valuable in the sense that every penis is shaped differently,” adds Lehmiller.

It’s also made of silicone, which tends to be more smooth and more durable—so long as you don’t use it with silicone-based lube. Since this toy is also water-resistant, it can be used in the shower if you don’t feel like cleaning up the mess after. Reviewers tend to like how discreet this toy is, as it’s 4.5 inches in length and 3.3 inches in width. It also comes with protector lids so nothing gets in there when it’s not supposed to.

Up to this point, we’ve gone through some pretty high-tech sex toys for penis-havers. As you may recall, though, Queen says that there are also reliable, simple kinds of strokers. “This is a great example of the genre, with soft material, texturing on the inside, and that’s easy to clean,” says Queen. “Plus the ‘pop beads’ look for the exterior is playful and would make it easy to grasp.”

In addition to the textured exterior, this handheld stoker also has internal textures—three different types, to be exact. These include large massage beads, thick ribbing, and small massage beads in the 4.5-inch toy. Unlike other strokers and masturbators, this baby is open-ended, so it may feel a little different. It may also be easier to clean than close-ended options.

“Tenga is a great brand, and they are really creative about their designs,” says Queen. “This one has a fairly hard shell but includes soft panels that let you get a lot of contact with the penis.” The Tenga Flip Zero EV “also has vibrating elements in the core, so you can have the pleasures of a great Tenga sleeve and vibration in [five] different modes,” Queen adds. However, the sheer number of modes, “might be more than some users want to take charge of,” Queen says, so make sure you’re not too overwhelmed by that before purchasing it.

This toy features dual vibrating cores, which live inside an elastomer sleeve that feels like rubber. The term “flip” indicates that you can open and close this toy like you would a flip phone (remember those?). This makes it easy to use and clean. What’s particularly cool about the Flip Zero is that it has pretty strong vacuum suction, which is designed to feel like fellatio.

According to Queen, the great thing about this toy is that it, “lets you play with suction,” which may also feel like someone’s giving you a blow job. The toy itself features dial-operated suction control, of which there are 10 levels, and comes with a drying stand that’s meant to be a more hygienic way to dry your toy post-cleaning. This option is also waterproof, so it’s safe to bring with you into the shower.

The Tenga Aero, like the Fleshlight Ice toys, is transparent, allowing you to see yourself as you thrust. A unique feature of this toy is that it comes with an integrated penis ring, which traps blood in your penis to give you a stronger erection. It’s also nice that it has a removable sleeve because cleaning is a bit simpler, according to a review: “I own a few other brands and I’m really impressed with the variety of sensations this one provides. Highly recommended. Super easy to clean and dry.”.

Queen says that the biggest pro of the Myhixel TR Male Sexual Wellness System is that it’s, “a wellness product, which offers training for the person who wants to learn to last longer.” She also caveats that any stroker can help with this, but what sets the Myhixel apart is that it’s, “more likely to give useful info for someone who needs to be walked through it,” Queen adds. The downside is that its price point is among the highest on this list.

It’s pretty high-tech though, as evidenced by the fact that there’s a self-heating system that achieves, “a temperature similar to the body,” per the product description. Keep in mind, though, that even the manufacturer is specific that this toy should be exclusively used with water-based lubes. Considering that the toy is made of silicone, and that oil-based and silicone-based lubes erode silicone, that tracks.

If the Myhixel sounds like your cup of tea but is out of your budget, you may consider the OptiMale Warming Stroker. As its name indicates, it has a warming feature—which gets to 98.6 degrees Fahrenheit in about five minutes. It’s, “also made of a soft material, plus it vibrates,” says Queen. To be exact, that soft material is body-safe silicone.

The toy is open-ended, and it doesn’t envelop the penis from a 360-degree angle. Instead, there’s a slight opening at the top of the plastic shell. There are 10 vibration features and three speed settings for this toy, which are controlled via one of the two buttons on top. The other button controls the warming features.

I saw this baby in action when I visited a sexual wellness store in Las Vegas, and let me tell you: even though I don’t have a penis, I could definitely see how the Manta could be highly pleasurable. This is another vibrating stroker, which has six settings and intensities. From holding it in my hand, I can tell you it’s powerful.

You can personalize each experience using the buttons on the handheld portion of the toy. Also made of flexible silicone, one of the cooler features of the Manta is that it was designed with partnered play in mind. It can add extra sensation during a blowjob, or can be used as a handheld cock ring.

“The Arcwave Ion is a toy for penis stimulation that [uniquely offers] targeted stimulation of the frenulum, the area on the underside of the penis where the head and shaft meet,” says Lehmiller. “It delivers pulsating airwaves to this spot in a way that simulates the feeling of oral sex.” And sure, this stroker is a pit pricier than other toys, but it’s kind of the only toy in its category.

It stimulates penis-owners by using pulsating airwaves instead of traditional vibrations. Because of that technology, though, reviewers and Arcwave advise trying the toy at least five times to get fully get used to it and learn which sensations feel best on your penis. It’d be helpful to know, then, that there are three buttons on this toy. The top button controls the smart silence option, and the two below it—marked with a plus sign and minus sign—control the strength.

Taking into account that Queen says Tenga is a great brand, it only made sense to include three different options from the manufacturer. Unlike its Flip Zero and Aero counterparts, the 3D Sculpted Pleasure Device isn’t all that high-tech. Essentially, the toy is just a white silicone sleeve that you invert before sliding into. It’s available in five different textures, like a spiral, with protruding blocks, and one called “pile,” which features stacked triangles that look like they’d offer a bit of suction. Regardless of which texture you get, expect there to be a stretchable width and length of 3.15 inches and 9.8 inches, respectively.

Users rave about how easy to clean this toy is since there’s no other component besides the reversible sleeve. “This toy made my other sleeve obsolete—just because clean up has never been easier,” said one Amazon reviewer. It really is that simple, since you just turn the toy inside out (the texture should be facing outward) and wash it with lukewarm water and mild soap. Once it’s washed, make sure that you let it dry completely before putting it back in its case.

Made out of silicone (internally) and plastic (externally), the Pulse is 4.25-inches long and 2.5-inches wide, making it the perfect toy to bring with you on the go. If you’re concerned you won’t fit in the Pulse Solo, know that its “wings” expand considerably, which will fit a broader range of penis sizes. Don’t let the name fool you, though: Just because it’s designed for solo play doesn’t mean that you can’t use this during partnered play.

It’s also cool that it’s, “waterproof and rechargeable,” says Queen—plus, it has a sensor, “that directs the motor to compensate when pressure is put on the PulsePlate”, aka the toy is only on when there’s skin contact. The product page says this toy can be used with or without lube, but the safest bet is to always put on a little bit of water-based lube. The biggest downside here, though, is that the Pulse Solo requires three whole hours of charging for one hour of play.