Generally speaking, I’m the type of person who overshoots the basics and becomes prematurely enthralled in the minutia of details. Recently, I realized this is the case for me when it comes to French fashion. I’m so engrossed in figuring out how they style their activewear, where they shop, and what type of accessories are seasonally trendy that it’s occurred to me that I don’t know much about their everyday outfit staples.
The reason we’re all obsessed with French fashion (I think) is because of its laid-back, didn’t-try-at-all, sophistication that seems to be part of the Parisienne DNA. In the interest of getting down to brass tacks and figuring out how and why French women are able to exude such an era of je ne sais quoi, I spoke to stylist Adrienne Coléon Gaskell, author of the blog “Oh So French” for Paris’ famed lingerie brand Simone Perele. Below she shares the foundational pieces she says make up the core of a casual-cool—yet incredibly chic—wardrobe.
Gaskell says, “A simple, sleek, elegant silk camisole (in black or white) is a French wardrobe staple,” since it pairs seamlessly with everything from jeans, to tailored trousers, or a pencil skirt. Think of it as French women’s answer to the classic white T-shirt.
“To a Parisienne, the black bra isn’t just a seduction piece, it’s a wardrobe staple, functioning as a neutral color,” Gaskell says. Although I consider a neutral everyday bra to be one that’s flesh-toned and hides well under clothing, she says that French women see it as a versatile piece that works as a daytime look with a white top or in the night with a more sophisticated button-down.
French women like pieces that can be versatile and multitasking. Gaskell says this is part of the reason why the crisp white button-down is a Parisienne favorite. It can be formal or styled more casually, which Gaskell recommends doing by buttoning it low and layering it with a lace bodysuit or bralette.
“Beyond its practical purpose—French women hate being cold so always have layers at the ready—the cardigan will always be a French fashion staple,” Gaskell says. And though cardigans can feel somewhat reminiscent of your middle school librarian, Gaskell says that the key is to channel Brigit Bardot and keep things playful and casual.
A blazer is a tried-and-true fallback for many (us included), so it’s not surprising that French women love a classic neutral such as black or a deep green or navy to transition a casual outfit to nighttime or to bring an air of youthfulness to a traditional daytime look.
Gaskell says that a pair of high-waisted leggings or pants are beloved by French women because of the way they highlight the feminine silhouette by hugging your hips and your waist. You can wear a high-waist pair of leggings with a crop top, a blazer, or with a T-shirt tucked in.
An everyday sneaker is, at this point, a universally ubiquitous and currently preferred footwear option, and French women, too, have embraced the trend toward comfortable footwear. As such, finding a chic, yet fashion-forward, everyday sneaker is an important wardrobe staple.
A statement jacket is really the piece de resistance of your outfit. In the winter your coat is often the only thing people even see, meanings it essentially is the outfit. Plus, if you’re decked out in head-to-toe neutrals and wardrobe staples, a statement coat is an easy way to inject some personality into the look.
“Nothing polishes an outfit like a functional, livable, totally chic leather bag,” Gaskell says. There are so many faux and real leather options to choose from but your everyday bag should be something that can both fit everything you need and work with any and every outfit.
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I’m a sucker for a multitasking sex toy. While I admit that may make me sound like I’m bringing the productivity imperative to my pleasure practice, dual stimulators have been popular for a long, long time.
sex educator and founder of the erotic ethical porn site FrolicMe.com.
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More than 25 years ago, in 1998, Sex and The City gave air time to the iconic rabbit vibrator, a category of sex toys that stimulate the vagina and clitoris at once. Since then, these inside-outside stimulators have continued to reinvent themselves time and time again through different shapes (see: SnailVibe), different external stimulation tactics (see: Lelo Enigma Double Sonic), and various hinges (see: We-Vibe Nova 2). But with the launch of Playboy Pleasures’ latest creation, a brand new style of multitasking toy is now available. Introducing: The Aurelie Tickler ($84).
“The Aurelie Tickler is like an updated rabbit toy,” says sex educator Marla Renee Stewart, MA, an expert with Lovers and co-author of The Ultimate Guide To Seduction and Foreplay. But rather than focusing on the clit and shallow portion of the vagina, “it is designed to simultaneously stimulate the deep and shallow erogenous zones in the vagina canal,” which are known as the A-spot and G-spot, respectively, she says. Another key feature of this motorized toy lies in its name; rather than just vibrating against these vaginal hot spots, users have the option to employ a new-to-market tickling technology.
Curious if this innovative multitasker is as pleasurable as it is intriguing, I decided to try it. After a solid month of testing this tickle-met G-spot vibrator, all I have to say is, ‘again, again’!
The first of its kind, the PlayBoy Pleasures Aurelie Tickler is an internal stimulator that can pleasure all the erogenous zones inside the vaginal canal with vibration and tickles.
“The Aurelie is an innovative dual simulator that focuses the A-spot and G-spot in the vaginal canal,” explains Stewart. To the naked eye, it may look like a regular ‘ole rabbit vibrator, which typically has a long arm for internal stimulation and a short nub that stays outside and gives the external clitoris some love. But actually, both prongs of the Aurelie are designed to go inside your vaginal canal, where they each target different vaginal erogenous zones.
The main shaft, which has 7 inches of insertable length, is designed to slide deep inside the vaginal canal, where it can stimulate the A-spot, explains Stewart. An often-overlooked erogenous zone, the A-spot (anterior fornix) is a point deep within the vagina, right in front of the cervix, which some vulva-owners say responds well to pressure, explains sex educator Anna Richards, the founder of the erotic ethical porn site FrolicMe.com.
“Meanwhile, the rose gold prong—dubbed the tickler by Playboy Pleasures—is designed to stimulate the G-spot,” says Stewart. For the uninitiated: “The G-spot is an area located one to three inches along the upper wall of the vagina,” says Suzannah Weiss, an AASECT-certified sex educator and author of Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject. To the touch, this area is reported as being springier and more textured than the surrounding vaginal tissues. However, the exact size varies from person to person, and Weiss notes that the term G-spot is misleading, as it is more a general area or zone. That’s why experts call it the G-area or G-zone instead.
The sensitivity of this area, as well as the sensations its stimulation elicits, also vary. “Some people can orgasm through G-spot stimulation alone, while for others, it may simply be a way to enhance a clitoral orgasm,” says Weiss. In fact, the clitoris and G-zone stimulation combo is often credited as a reliable way to achieve a blended orgasm. And an anatomical structure called the skene's glands—sometimes dubbed the female prostate—can be accessed through the G-spot. “Stimulating this area may emit prostate-specific antigens, zinc, and sugar, similar to the male prostate,” aka female ejaculate, she says.
By stimulating the G-zone and A-spot together, “the idea is that the Aurelie allows people to enjoy multiple channels of [vaginal] stimulation at once,” says Stewart. Notably, the dual stimulation can encourage people, especially those who have a hard time staying present in sex, to stay in the moment with their body, she says.
My honest review of the Playboy Pleasures Aurelie
As a professional sex journalist who reviews pleasure products for a living, my preference for external to internal stimulation is well-documented (case and point). A partiality to clitoral stimulation is common amongst vulva owners, with research suggesting that more than 70 percent of women require it to orgasm, and an additional portion say it intensifies and ushers along orgasm. My bias has, historically, been further encouraged by the fact I have a pelvic floor condition that sometimes manifests as my muscles being too activated for any penetration to take place at all. So, while I may enjoy a multi-tasking sex toy, I was skeptical that a dual-stimulator that doesn’t have an external attachment would do much for me. Well, color be tickled because it did.
I’ll give it to you straight: The first time I used this toy I came incredibly hard. ICYWW: I didn’t squirt or ejaculate, which wasn’t surprising because those aren’t things my body has ever done. But after spending more than thirty minutes listening to audio porn and teasing myself with my hand, I finally lathered Aurelie up with hellawater-based lubricant and slid the toy deep inside. After fiddling with the nine different vibration patterns and speeds to find the one that would get me off, I lay there listening to my erotica app until I came.
As it turns out, enjoying and orgasming from vaginal stimulation isn’t as huge a hop, skip, or jump from clitoral stimulation as it may seem, according to Weiss. “There is a high concentration of nerves that pass through the clitoris to the internal vagina,” to where the G-spot and A-spot are located, she says. So, while external clitoral stimulation is often the money-spot for many vulva owners, certain types of vaginal stimulation target the clitoris from the inside, she explains. And, based on the result, it seems that Aurelie was able to stimulate just that spot because the vaginal orgasm I experienced was similar in intensity to the clitoral ones I’m accustomed to.
The second time I used the toy, I didn’t have quite the same ample time for penetration prep. The toy, after all, is 1.75 inches thick, which requires a long warm-up for me. But, rather than swapping Aurelie for my go-to clitoral vibe or suction sex toy, I decided to experiment with using the toy externally. The bulbous head of the tickler is textured, and that, combined with the intense vibrations, did me in.
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Because the handle of the Aurelie vibrates (which I find annoying) and the handles of wand vibrators don’t, I won’t routinely rely on the Aurelie when I know I only want clit stim. However, I love that I can use the Aurelie for external clitoral love to help myself get in the mood for the G-spot and A-spot stimulation that will follow.
Is the Playboy Pleasure Aurelie for you?
It may be! The Aurelie makes it easy to reach all of the nerve-dense spots that run the length of your vaginal canal, thus making it a suitable selection for those who already know they love incorporating internal stimulation into their solo or partnered play.
Richards also recommends it for any pleasure-seeker interested in exploring their internal erogenous zones. “Your fingers just aren’t able to reach as far as the Aurelie’s long, flexible shaft due to their shape and length,” she explains. Plus, “you are less likely to get tired out from holding it than from doing all the work with your own hands,” she says.
Additionally, because there truly is no sex toy on the market quite like it, the Aurelie may be worth trying if you enjoy experimenting in the bedroom. At just $84, it’s a more moderate price than many other similarly luxury or innovative options.
Ultimately, I don’t foresee the Aurelie ever gaining the same notoriety as the SATC-sanctioned rabbit because it isn’t designed to provide the external clitoral stimulation the majority of vulva owners crave. However, this dual stimulator def deserves a place in the collections of those who go nuts for vaginal penetration.
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