We asked over 2,700 Well+Good readers about their anxiety—here’s what they had to say

Take a moment to think about how often you answer the question “How are you?” with a groan, or how frequently you start sentences with “I’m stressed about…” or “I’m anxious about…” I’m pretty sure I’ve already used the former phrase at least three times today.

In 2007, the American Psychological Association (APA) called stress a “major health problem” in the U.S., and the org has also named anxiety disorders as the most common mental health issue, affecting nearly 30 percent of American adults at some point in their lives.

Stated plainly: Both are a Big Deal (with caps). So why are they still so hard to have a real conversation about?

Here at Well+Good, we decided to break the ice by asking readers to share their experiences with stress and anxiety in a recent survey. And it turns out, everyone had something to say: Within 24 hours, more than 1,000 people participated. And in the end, we collected over 2,700 responses total.

We learned that readers have trouble telling whether they’re stressed or anxious in any given situation; that peoples’ social lives proved a major trigger for their anxiety; and that, yes, we all have a tendency to put our mental well-being in the NBD category—even though it really, really matters.

Scroll down for the results of our anxiety and stress reader survey. (The big takeaway? Whatever you’re feeling, you’re so not alone.)

Here’s how to course-correct stress in one minute, according to Arianna Huffington. Plus, how one writer uses cannabis to deal with stressful days in the office.