When seeking out counsel on how to avoid drama with your partner on vacation or establishing healthy relationship rules, it can be difficult to open up to the people around you (i.e. the ones who know your S.O.) about how his or her Monopoly win last night just totally wasn’t fair.

And if you need to have a talk about something like what’s happening in your sex life—or maybe even suggesting ways to spice things up—it can get awkward, fast.

But that’s where our Well+Good Council comes in. While no one ever figures it all out, this grounded group of health pros has some pretty genius dating and love advice, which they’re ready to pass along.

Read on for healthy relationship intel from wellness influencers like Candice Kumai, Kimberly Snyder, Norma Kamali, and more.

Joey Gonzalez, CEO of Barry’s Bootcamp

A relationship will tell you what to expect from it within the first few months. Just be willing to hear it.

Drew Ramsey, MD, psychiatrist and farmer

Bite your tongue. Apologize without saying “but.”

Jill Blakeway, DACM, acupuncturist and women’s health expert

Fight fair! Usually, it’s not what you fight about, it’s how you fight that matters.

Kimberly Snyder, CN, celebrity nutritionist

Be flexible, but know your boundaries and your non-negotiables.

McKel Hill, RDN, founder of Nutrition Stripped

Show up fully for yourself so you can bring your best to the table.

Candice Kumai, rockstar healthy chef

Sometimes you just have to take a step back, do all the the things you love, and they’ll find you.

Lila Darville, sex expert and relationship coach

Take 100 percent responsibility for your own experience. Advice from me: Don’t wait ’til you go to bed to have sex.

Norma Kamali, fashion icon with a (healthy) wellness obsession

Be with the person you deserve.

Claire Wasserman, career expert and founder of Ladies Get Paid

Understand the difference between what you want and what you need.

Robin Berzin, MD, functional medicine doctor

In the best, longest relationships each person is a little more in love with the other at different times, and it’s always switching back and forth. Dynamic is healthy; stagnation is the beginning of the end.

Uncoupled people need advice, too—here’s how to avoid dating burnout and some guidance on how to be happy when you’re single.