Americans Are Spending $1 Billion Each Month on Porn—Here Are 4 Quality Sex Sites To Find What Turns You On

Call it a pleasure revolution or just pent-up horniness, but people are spending their money a little differently these days. For some, masturbation the ultimate act of self care, and paying for porn is one way to do it. According to research compiled social media network IsMyGirl, Americans spend an estimated $1.14 billion on adult entertainment every month.

Okay, my first question is this: “People pay for porn?” Perhaps the fact that I have to shake the dust off my Anaïs Nin books before I embark upon an erotic voyage means I’m the outdated one here. After all, if it’s worth throwing down a few dollars for anything, it’s your orgasm.

As unthinkable as it may seem—given free popular porn sites like Pornhub, XSites, and SpankBang—many people are transitioning from complimentary porn sites to subscription outlets. The reason? To support the actors in the films, to avoid endless pop-ups, and to help them find exactly what turns them on.

Not every sex site is particularly empowering, inclusive, imaginative, or based in reality. Sex sites of the highest quality help you find what exactly turns you on. (Note: The links below lead to sites with pornography.)

Quality sex sites to help you find out what you like

1. Make Love Not Porn

Sexologist and Bloomi founder Rebecca Alvarez Story recommends Make Love Not Porn, “an ethical porn site with realistic sex scenes,” so we’re talking real people, real experiences. Signing up is free and members only, and before you get skittish, you don’t actually have to make porn to see porn. It’s more than cool to be a voyeur; this isn’t a literal tit for tat thing. What you’ll get when you sign in is access to is truly authentic sexual experiences, helpfully bundled by category.

There’s a MakeAlfrescoLove session that features “lush waterfalls to desert canyons, tropical beaches to breathtaking mountain views.” Wow, perfect for satiating lust and wanderlust in one full swing.

2. Bellesa

“Bellesa, founded by Michelle Shnaidman, includes videos where women are portrayed in a way that centers the control of their own sexual experiences as opposed to being there as an accessory of the man’s needs,” says says Tatyannah King, a sex educator and sex coach with Blex Technologies.

The site features not only HD-quality videos, but a helpful sex education section that covers everything from masturbation tips for vulva-owners to different micro ways we slut shame. Oh, and they have a sex toy shop with a Find Your Vibe quiz to help you seek out your pleasure. Like dinner and a movie, but way, way, way better!

While some clips are free, many require a subscription to Bellesa+. Membership costs $3 a month and includes Bellesa House, Bellesa Blind Date, Bellesa Films and more than 50 other “premium channels.”

3. Dipsea

We’re very pro-Dipsea here at Well+Good, and Story is a big fan as well. Founded by Gina Gutierrez and Faye Keegen, Dipsea is an audio erotica app that also provides sexual wellness sessions. If you like your bedtime stories a little bit dirty, look no further. After a free trial, you can choose subscribe to Dipsea for either $9 per month or $72 for a year. Basically, it’s the price of two iced lattes (and your iced latte doesn’t give you an orgasm).

4. FrolicMe

“FrolicMe, founded by Anna Richards, embraces erotic imagery that shows genuine chemistry and real intimacy between the people on screen,” says King. “I also enjoy that the scenes are shorter and more straight to the point rather than most mainstream porn, but long enough that it shows a realistic visualization of sex.”

What’s also interesting with FrolicMe is how specially curated it really is. There are films, audio clips, image galleries all ordered by scintillating scenarios. You can sign up on a a per week, per month, single month basis, but getting the one year FrolicMe subscription for $51 is probably the best bang (sorry) for your buck.