Here’s what to do when you’re being body-shamed at work—from someone who’s experienced it
Body shaming in the workplace has been going on for way too long—which this woman is sharing her experience on how to take back control of the conversation.
Here’s what to do when you’re being body-shamed at work—from someone who’s experienced it
Body shaming in the workplace has been going on for way too long—which this woman is sharing her experience on how to take back control of the conversation.
If you’ve ever felt a co-worker’s wandering eyes or been the subject of your boss’ dirty jokes, you know body shaming isn’t restricted to Instagram comments or off-the-clock hours. But dealing with it in a professional setting is 100 times trickier to navigate when your career is caught up in the mix.
Kira Finney, a senior consultant in Omaha, Nebraska, knows the deal because it’s happened to her—and she is so not here for it. She’s been fielding comments about her 34DDs since middle school, when she seemingly “bloomed overnight,” and those remarks didn’t end when she entered the workforce.
Yes, women being objectified in the workplace is a real thing, and it’s been going on for way too long.
“‘Wear tighter shirts. Wear lower cut shirts. Show off your body. This will help you advance,'” her bosses have said to her throughout her career, Finney shares. “‘You see that one female over there, she is going up the chain, and that could be you.'”
Yes, women being objectified in the workplace is a real thing, and it’s been going on way too long—which is why it’s so powerful to see women like Finney take back control of the conversation. In the spirit of women owning their own self worth, we’re teaming up with Target to celebrate bodies of every shape and size, and Finney is sharing her wisdom on how to handle situations like hers.
Scroll down for her 4 pieces of advice for dealing with body shaming at work.
1. Speak up for yourself
Finney’s number one piece of advice to women who are going through similar experiences is to report it. “Every workplace should have an [equal employment opportunity] department, and they need to be reported,” Finney advises. “Let them know that treatment and that regarding of you is not appropriate.”
If that feels scary, remember that standing up for yourself is a powerful act of self love. “Most of all, you are not your breasts,” Finney says. “You are a force and it needs to be recognized.”
2. Remind yourself of your worth
No matter how awesome you think you are, hearing those comments can sting, which is why Finney advocates for taking a moment to reflect on your self worth—even if that means getting a little angry.
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“I was pissed off that men were still bringing up the size of my boobs and not my accomplishments, my intelligence, my drive to learn,” she says. “It made me want to prove more that I am a woman who should be respected for being me, and not my boobs.” Preach.
3. Be proud of your body
Just like you’re in charge of defining your own self worth, you can also define how you view your own body. For much of Finney’s life she was made to feel ashamed of her breasts—covering up with sports bras and baggy t-shirts, and even quitting the sports she loved when men started to tease her—but by viewing them in a positive light, she has learned to be proud of them.
The body diversity movement has had an influence on that mental transformation, as Finney has noted that she thinks seeing more curvy women in advertisements (as Target has highlighted with its new Auden line) bodes well for a shift in women’s relationships with their bodies.
“Seeing someone who looks more like you break the image barrier may help more young women to be more accepting of themselves, [experience] less body dysmorphia, and even take that step to becoming part of helping celebrate our body diversity,” Finney says.
Now, instead of disguising her figure under sports bras, Finney feels more empowered to support it with bras like The Bliss from Target. “This bra was a surprise winner for me!” she says. “I haven’t worn a wireless bra since I was a teenager. This bra felt like it was molded from my body. The light lining was perfect for coverage and support. I definitely will be buying every color in this one!”
4. Practice positive self-talk—for real
Instagram raves about the power of positive affirmations, but Finney took the practice to the next level by starting a real-life open dialogue with her inner mean girl.
After experiencing depression in 2018, Finney’s “negative self-talk was out of control,” so she made a pact with herself to find a positive to counteract every negative thought that popped into her mind. “It might be my hair looks good today, the color I’m wearing really makes my eyes stand out, even just telling myself, ‘You look great!'” she says.
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And guess what? It worked. “Being more positive about myself has even helped me be more positive at work and everyday life,” she says. “I have even had others comment about it.”
So no matter how cheesy you feel, next time you hear that negative voice whispering in your ear, look in the mirror and tell yourself out loud that you are worthy, valued, and beautiful—in exactly the body you’re in.
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When you either live in a really cold place, or are vacationing in a really cold place, the best women’s winter coats for extreme cold are essential. There’s cold places and then there’s really cold places. I, for one, live in a really cold place. Lake Placid, New York is a small tourist town tucked away in upstate New York. Not, like, the Castkills upstate. Like, Canadian border upstate. Come winter, temps regularly hit below freezing. The icy, snowy weather mixed with the access to mountains (hello, skiing!) have landed it not one, but two winter Olympic games. Simply put, the place is freakin’ cold and having the right cold winter gear is pretty much mandatory.
Living in what is effectively the tundra, I have learned to dress for such volatile weather. And while things like snow boots and fleece-lined leggings are very much needed, the one essential I recommend for keeping out the chill is a winter coat for the extreme cold. It’s a non-negotiable. And not just any old winter coat but the right winter coat—these are the pieces that keep you warm when the temps hit the negatives or keep you dry when a snow squall blows through during your casual evening stroll.
If you’re gearing up for a long, chilly winter and are in the market for a new coat, you’ve come to the right place. Take it from someone who lives in a cold place—these are the best women’s winter coats for the extreme cold.
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Sizes: XS-XXL | Colors: 6 | Materials: Recycled polyester shell, recycled down fill
This is my go-to parka that I’ll toss on for running errands, walking the dog, weekend getaways—just about anything. It comes down to your knees, which, IMO, is perfect parka length. As for the specs: It’s filled with a recycled 600-fill down that’s warm without being stuffy or chunky, so you can layer in comfort. It also has a water-repellent finish on the recycled polyester exterior, which helps keep snowy moisture at bay. If you’re looking for a solid overall pick, this is a solid bet.
Columbia’s Suttle Mountain Long Insulated Jacket has a heat-reflective lining and a synthetic down lining. For light snow, rain, and wind, this toasty coat is a no-brainer. Plus, it’s feature-friendly, with extras like a sherpa-lined hood (to keep your ears snug) and a 2-way zipper that can allow for better mobility.
Sizes: XXS-M | Colors: 2 | Materials: Down insulation, recycled nylon lining, polyester and cotton outer
This water-resistant Canada Goose parka may be pricey, but is loaded with features to keep you warm. It has a 625-fill-power down insulation, a removable extended hood trim, and snap closures on the cuffs and the back to lock in heat. It has interior and exterior pockets, as well as handy backpack straps inside that let you carry your jacket hands-free.
Sizes: XXS-XL (with petite, regular, and plus options) | Colors: 5 | Materials: Recycled polyester shell, DownTek insulation
You can’t beat L.L.Bean for affordable, high-quality winter coats. The Mountain Classic Down Parka is filled with 650-fill DownTek down insulation (which is coated to stay dry and prevent clumping) and is rated for temps down to 10 degrees Fahrenheit. The recycled shell repels moisture and stops the wind chill, too, without clumping the down or getting it wet. It also has a detachable hood. For under $200, this jacket is a winner.
This jacket has a snuggly fill, thigh-length design, and added fur-trim parka. It’s crafted to be totally sealed against cold temps and has a thick layer of insulation for protection and warmth, plus a double enclosure and windproof ribbed cuffs to keep the chill out. It’s also waterproof.
This jacket, nicknamed “the Amazon coat,” has been the star of many an Instagram feed. It’s affordable, stylish, and warm. It has a fleece-lined hood, side zippers to let you wear it looser, and so many roomy pockets (six) that you’ll almost never need to carry a bag again. Better yet, it comes in a wide variety of colors and sizes. You can also find styles with a fur-lined hood if that’s your jam.
If you do live in a place where temps frequent below zero, I would recommend investing in an Woolrich jacket. The brand is beloved for all things cold-weather, and while expensive, its products are worth it. The Aurora is a full-length parka with an insulated hood, made to withstand temperatures down to -4 degrees Fahrenheit. It has a water-resistant nylon exterior, too.
Pros:
Withstands temperatures down to -4 degrees Fahrenheit
This jacket has everything you want out of a resort or backcountry jacket—lightweight, yet reliable insulation that doesn’t compromise movement, an exterior that actually stops moisture in its tracks, a helmet-compatible hood, underarm vents, pockets for hands-free storage, and more.
Waterproof and breathable, the Stio Environ jacket is made with recycled fabric that will keep you dry and warm on the mountain. It has a removable hood, underarm vents, pockets inside and out, and a snow skirt for those long days on the slopes or tubing hills. Plus, Stio is Carbon Neutral Certified, making this one of the more sustainable picks on our list.
Sizes: XXS-3XL (with standard and plus options) | Colors: 6 | Materials: Recycled nylon outer, 700-fill goose down insulation
Throw it back to the ’90s (or 1996, to be exact), which is when the original version of this puffer was introduced. This version still has that retro look, but with modern touches. It’s made of recycled fabrics, and has 700-fill down, a water-repellent exterior, and a stowable hood. The jacket also packs itself into the right hand pocket, which is super handy for travel.
Sizes: XXS-3XL (with regular and tall options) | Colors: 1 | Materials: Recycled nylon, 3M Thinsulate down alternative insulation
Not everyone likes the Jet Puff fluffernutter look of a down jacket. That’s okay—you can get something slim that still stays warm, like this parka from Athleta. Instead of down, it’s filled with a lightweight alternative to traditional feather fluff. The exterior is made of recycled, water-repellent nylon, leaving you with a featherlight coat that is quietly cozy—without overdoing it.
This award-winning jacket is built for the slopes but can be worn just well off them, too. It’s made with three sturdy layers of waterproof protection that keep you dry and warm (but never sweaty or sticky). Just note, It’s technically a shell which means it’s made for layering and keeping your clothes dry from wind, rain, and snow (aka, layer up).
Like its name suggests, the Ghost Whisperer Hoody from Mountain Hardwear packs down in a pinch, so you’ll forget anything’s there. It’s perfect for indoor and outdoor adventures alike. Still, this coat packs a lot of heat: with 800-fill RDS-certified goose down insulation and an elastic draw-cord hem, you’ll have no problem fending off the cold winter air.
Pros:
Super lightweight and easy to stow
Recycled, water-resistant nylon ripstop shell
Cons:
Only standard sizes available (no plus or petites)
The outside of this jacket is a weather-resistant material that sloughs off rain, sleet, and snow. But the inside features a wool insulator designed to keep you snug as a bug whether you’re running up a mountain or down the road. It’s airy and durable, built to stay to warm stride after stride.
Noize is a one-stop shop for all things cruelty free, eco-friendly, and sustainably-made. This mid-length heavyweight parka does a darn good job keeping the cold out when the temps drop. In true Noize fashion, there’s no bird feathers or animal fur—everything is vegan, so you can look good and feel good, too.
Cotopaxi is a certified B Corp, which means ethical sustainability is built into all of their products. This jacket is not only warm, water-resistant, and lightweight, but it’s also made with responsibly-sourced down. It has elastic binding at the hood and cuffs to keep heat inside, and it comes in a ton of colorful patterns. One percent of company revenues also goes to the Cotopaxi Foundation to help alleviate poverty.
Sizes: XXS-XXL | Colors: 3 | Materials: Organic cotton and recycled nylon lining, recycled down
This long puffer is versatile and casual enough to pair of jeans or joggers, so you’ll want to wear it all season long. It has a drawstring hood and drawstring waist, and oversized front pockets for convenience. Bonus: It’s also made of recycled fabric and filled with recycled down insulation.
Pros:
Casual design makes this pick easier to dress up (or down)
Sizes: 0-14 | Colors: 2 | Materials: Polyester (recycled and new), 600-fill goose down insulation
This puffer has a cinchable waist so you can pull it in tight, or leave extra room to layer underneath. The 600-fill goose down insulation will help keep your torso toasty, while the recycled polyester exterior helps keep wind and water at bay. Plus, it has a removable hood and it comes in classic colors so you’re sure to find something to match your wardrobe.
A classic wool coat is a closet essential. This one from Quince is made with Italian wool to wrap you in cozy warmth. It’s lined, has a standing collar, and inconspicuous side pockets for a sleek, stylish look.
When it comes to insulated winter coats, you’ll want to take stock of the “fill power,” which indicates how warm the jacket will be. If you’re hoping to stay toasty with a down or down-alternative jacket, look for insulation that’s 600-fill or higher. Additionally, think about how you’ll be using your coat: if you’re looking to stay warm while skiing or snowboarding, prioritize water-resistant or waterproof materials.
How much coverage do you need?
Coverage is a matter of personal preference (and your personal style), but keeping your legs and bum warm with a long puffer coat can be extremely helpful when the temperature plummets. Still, there are plenty of warm waist-length jackets on this list if a longer fit isn’t for you.
What features are important to you in a winter coat?
The coats on our list have a variety of added bells and whistles. Whether you’re looking for a winter coat with deep pockets, a removable hood, interior shoulder straps, or built-in hand cuffs, you’ll find a coat with your desired features on this list. Just note that they sometimes come at a higher price (as with the Canada Goose pick, above).
What’s your budget?
As our list proves, you can certainly find a quality winter coat at a wide variety of prices. There are plenty of lower-priced coats on our list (as far as winter coats go, that is), but some of the more reputable brands above come with a higher price tag—they also may be more durable and even help out with repairs (as with Patagonia) down the line.
Frequently asked questions about winter coats for extreme cold
What coats are as warm as Canada Goose?
Canada Goose coats are revered for being some of the warmest jackets around, thanks to their higher fill count. Still, there are a handful of other coats on our list that have the same 600-and-up fill count, if not higher. Look for brands that offer 600- to 800-fill warmth and wind-resistant outers for maximum toastiness. The North Face, Mountain Hardwear, and Cotopaxi coats we reviewed all meet that criteria.
What is a warm winter coat that is not bulky?
Puffer coats tend to be on the bulky side (all that insulation has to go somewhere!), but you can find plenty of warm jackets that keep a low profile. As mentioned above, the Athleta Whisper Featherless Parka and the Quince Italian Wool Cocoon Coat both offer a slimmer profile without compromising too much in the warmth department.
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There’s a reason Skims has become the go-to for so many loungewear lovers: It’s soft, stretchy, and designed to make you feel like the main character—even when you’re just snuggled up on the couch watching your favorite show. The only catch? Stocking up on these comfy essentials can leave your wallet feeling… not so comfortable.
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Enter Walmart’s lineup of Skims dupes, here to save the day (and your budget). Walmart has been quietly upping its loungewear game with pieces that feel as buttery soft as the originals, but at prices that won’t make you cover your eyes at checkout. Whether you’re after smoothing spandex, a silky pajama set, or even a soft slip, these Skims dupes deliver all the cozy vibes without compromising on quality.
Keep scrolling to shop our top picks for scoring all the softness, style, and stretch you love—minus the splurge.
Skims bodysuits went viral for being both comfy and stylish, and this seamless square neck bodysuit delivers the same soft, stretchy fit. It pairs equally well with jeans, skirts, or lounge pants, and it’s so comfy you might forget you’re wearing it—until the compliments start rolling in.
Prefer a sleeveless bodysuit for a polished look? This seamless high-neck offers a sleek fit with a chic neckline that elevates any outfit—whether you’re layering it under a blazer or pairing it with your favorite sweatpants. Hello, new wardrobe MVP.
If self care was a fabric, it would be these satin pajamas. The silky material brings a luxe look and soft feel that’s made for winding down after a long day—and for making you feel supremely put together while you’re doing your nightly skin care routine (even if that’s just splashing some water on your face).
Have you been meaning to upgrade your pajama situation from your collection of tattered college t-shirts? This set is for you. It’s lightweight and breathable, and the classic notched-collar silhouette never goes out of style—which means you can keep it in your PJ rotation for just as long as your beloved tees.
This lace-trim chemise blends softness and elegance for a seriously versatile piece. With its light-as-a-feather fabric and comfy fit, you can wear it to bed or dress it up for a night on the town. Slip it on, and know that your downtime just got a little dreamier.
Wrap yourself in cozy vibes with this knit robe that’s giving cloud-like softness. Lightweight and versatile, it’s the ideal layer for morning coffee runs to the kitchen or a movie night before bed. Consider it a hug in clothing form.
These seamless shorts are the ultimate base layer. Wear them under dresses for protection from chafing in the summer (the worst), and for that held-in feeling you get from your favorite leggings, any time. The best part? The silicone grip at the top of the waistband means it won’t roll down or bunch up.
Say goodbye to uncomfortable underwear with this seamless boyshort set that’s all about comfort and fit. The stretchy fabric moves with you, while the no-show design makes them ideal for layering under anything. Added bonus: You get six pairs, which means less laundry and more lounging.
