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Managing the influx of symptoms you get during menopause can feel like a game of medical whack-a-mole. When one symptom is finally under your control (maybe you bought cooling sheets to help with hot flashes or lubricant to help with dryness), another may pop up—even ones that aren’t often attributed to menopause by doctors or your fellow menopausal friends. One of those things? Dry mouth.
Yep, menopause mouth symptoms are definitely a thing. I had no idea my own perimenopause experience would come with sensitive gums, painful canker sores, and dryness. Since their onset, I’ve tried to self-advocate much more while I’m in the dentist’s chair. Sometimes, dentists can even spot the subtle oral health signs that menopause is on its way (or is already here).
Here, learn the most common menopause mouth symptoms that your dentists may point out, why they happen, and what to do to get relief.
What causes oral health issues during menopause?
Menopause mouth, like all symptoms of this pivotal life change, is brought on by hormone fluctuations as a person’s fertility declines. A drop in estrogen levels can cause dryness, and not just the vaginal variety one might normally expect, according to a May 2013 study in the Australian Dental Journal1.
“During menopause, the body’s estrogen levels decline, leading to a decrease in saliva production,” says Daniel Croley, DMD, chief dental officer of Delta Dental of California and Affiliates. “Saliva is your mouth’s natural buffer—it cleanses the mouth, neutralizes acids, and protects against tooth decay and gum disease. Less saliva can lead to increased tooth decay and altered taste,” he adds.
While dentistry difficulties can happen at any time before or during your menopause transition, many of us don’t know about the connection. A recent survey conducted by Delta Dental found 84 percent of women aged 50 and over are unaware that discomfort in and around your mouth is often linked to menopause.
The effects of “menopause mouth” can vary, and a person may get more than one oral health issue. Here are six of the symptoms most seen by doctors and dentists:
1. Dry mouth
We’ve likely all had a bout of dry mouth at one point or another. It often stems from breathing through your mouth, taking certain medications, or inhaling lots of dry air. But it’s also a common menopause symptom.
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It’s estimated nearly half of menopausal women have decreased saliva flow compared to those still getting a period, according to a small November 2018 study in the Journal of International Society and Preventive & Community Dentistry2. And as those saliva levels drop, xerostomia, or dry mouth, sets in. It’s an annoying, icky feeling that’s almost like you’ve swallowed sand.
2. Burning mouth syndrome
Burning mouth syndrome is medical-speak for ongoing burning in the mouth (think: on your gums, tongue, lips, inside your cheeks, etc.) without an obvious cause, per the Mayo Clinic. But during menopause especially, some people can feel intense stinging, tingling, and pain in and around their mouth without an injury. In fact, up to 33 percent of people in menopause have burning mouth syndrome, according to an older BMJ Clinical Evidence3 review.
Other possible secondary causes of burning mouth syndrome (besides menopause) may include the following, per the Mayo Clinic:
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I’m a sucker for a multitasking sex toy. While I admit that may make me sound like I’m bringing the productivity imperative to my pleasure practice, dual stimulators have been popular for a long, long time.
sex educator and founder of the erotic ethical porn site FrolicMe.com.
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More than 25 years ago, in 1998, Sex and The City gave air time to the iconic rabbit vibrator, a category of sex toys that stimulate the vagina and clitoris at once. Since then, these inside-outside stimulators have continued to reinvent themselves time and time again through different shapes (see: SnailVibe), different external stimulation tactics (see: Lelo Enigma Double Sonic), and various hinges (see: We-Vibe Nova 2). But with the launch of Playboy Pleasures’ latest creation, a brand new style of multitasking toy is now available. Introducing: The Aurelie Tickler ($84).
“The Aurelie Tickler is like an updated rabbit toy,” says sex educator Marla Renee Stewart, MA, an expert with Lovers and co-author of The Ultimate Guide To Seduction and Foreplay. But rather than focusing on the clit and shallow portion of the vagina, “it is designed to simultaneously stimulate the deep and shallow erogenous zones in the vagina canal,” which are known as the A-spot and G-spot, respectively, she says. Another key feature of this motorized toy lies in its name; rather than just vibrating against these vaginal hot spots, users have the option to employ a new-to-market tickling technology.
Curious if this innovative multitasker is as pleasurable as it is intriguing, I decided to try it. After a solid month of testing this tickle-met G-spot vibrator, all I have to say is, ‘again, again’!
The first of its kind, the PlayBoy Pleasures Aurelie Tickler is an internal stimulator that can pleasure all the erogenous zones inside the vaginal canal with vibration and tickles.
“The Aurelie is an innovative dual simulator that focuses the A-spot and G-spot in the vaginal canal,” explains Stewart. To the naked eye, it may look like a regular ‘ole rabbit vibrator, which typically has a long arm for internal stimulation and a short nub that stays outside and gives the external clitoris some love. But actually, both prongs of the Aurelie are designed to go inside your vaginal canal, where they each target different vaginal erogenous zones.
The main shaft, which has 7 inches of insertable length, is designed to slide deep inside the vaginal canal, where it can stimulate the A-spot, explains Stewart. An often-overlooked erogenous zone, the A-spot (anterior fornix) is a point deep within the vagina, right in front of the cervix, which some vulva-owners say responds well to pressure, explains sex educator Anna Richards, the founder of the erotic ethical porn site FrolicMe.com.
“Meanwhile, the rose gold prong—dubbed the tickler by Playboy Pleasures—is designed to stimulate the G-spot,” says Stewart. For the uninitiated: “The G-spot is an area located one to three inches along the upper wall of the vagina,” says Suzannah Weiss, an AASECT-certified sex educator and author of Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject. To the touch, this area is reported as being springier and more textured than the surrounding vaginal tissues. However, the exact size varies from person to person, and Weiss notes that the term G-spot is misleading, as it is more a general area or zone. That’s why experts call it the G-area or G-zone instead.
The sensitivity of this area, as well as the sensations its stimulation elicits, also vary. “Some people can orgasm through G-spot stimulation alone, while for others, it may simply be a way to enhance a clitoral orgasm,” says Weiss. In fact, the clitoris and G-zone stimulation combo is often credited as a reliable way to achieve a blended orgasm. And an anatomical structure called the skene's glands—sometimes dubbed the female prostate—can be accessed through the G-spot. “Stimulating this area may emit prostate-specific antigens, zinc, and sugar, similar to the male prostate,” aka female ejaculate, she says.
By stimulating the G-zone and A-spot together, “the idea is that the Aurelie allows people to enjoy multiple channels of [vaginal] stimulation at once,” says Stewart. Notably, the dual stimulation can encourage people, especially those who have a hard time staying present in sex, to stay in the moment with their body, she says.
My honest review of the Playboy Pleasures Aurelie
As a professional sex journalist who reviews pleasure products for a living, my preference for external to internal stimulation is well-documented (case and point). A partiality to clitoral stimulation is common amongst vulva owners, with research suggesting that more than 70 percent of women require it to orgasm, and an additional portion say it intensifies and ushers along orgasm. My bias has, historically, been further encouraged by the fact I have a pelvic floor condition that sometimes manifests as my muscles being too activated for any penetration to take place at all. So, while I may enjoy a multi-tasking sex toy, I was skeptical that a dual-stimulator that doesn’t have an external attachment would do much for me. Well, color be tickled because it did.
I’ll give it to you straight: The first time I used this toy I came incredibly hard. ICYWW: I didn’t squirt or ejaculate, which wasn’t surprising because those aren’t things my body has ever done. But after spending more than thirty minutes listening to audio porn and teasing myself with my hand, I finally lathered Aurelie up with hellawater-based lubricant and slid the toy deep inside. After fiddling with the nine different vibration patterns and speeds to find the one that would get me off, I lay there listening to my erotica app until I came.
As it turns out, enjoying and orgasming from vaginal stimulation isn’t as huge a hop, skip, or jump from clitoral stimulation as it may seem, according to Weiss. “There is a high concentration of nerves that pass through the clitoris to the internal vagina,” to where the G-spot and A-spot are located, she says. So, while external clitoral stimulation is often the money-spot for many vulva owners, certain types of vaginal stimulation target the clitoris from the inside, she explains. And, based on the result, it seems that Aurelie was able to stimulate just that spot because the vaginal orgasm I experienced was similar in intensity to the clitoral ones I’m accustomed to.
The second time I used the toy, I didn’t have quite the same ample time for penetration prep. The toy, after all, is 1.75 inches thick, which requires a long warm-up for me. But, rather than swapping Aurelie for my go-to clitoral vibe or suction sex toy, I decided to experiment with using the toy externally. The bulbous head of the tickler is textured, and that, combined with the intense vibrations, did me in.
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Because the handle of the Aurelie vibrates (which I find annoying) and the handles of wand vibrators don’t, I won’t routinely rely on the Aurelie when I know I only want clit stim. However, I love that I can use the Aurelie for external clitoral love to help myself get in the mood for the G-spot and A-spot stimulation that will follow.
Is the Playboy Pleasure Aurelie for you?
It may be! The Aurelie makes it easy to reach all of the nerve-dense spots that run the length of your vaginal canal, thus making it a suitable selection for those who already know they love incorporating internal stimulation into their solo or partnered play.
Richards also recommends it for any pleasure-seeker interested in exploring their internal erogenous zones. “Your fingers just aren’t able to reach as far as the Aurelie’s long, flexible shaft due to their shape and length,” she explains. Plus, “you are less likely to get tired out from holding it than from doing all the work with your own hands,” she says.
Additionally, because there truly is no sex toy on the market quite like it, the Aurelie may be worth trying if you enjoy experimenting in the bedroom. At just $84, it’s a more moderate price than many other similarly luxury or innovative options.
Ultimately, I don’t foresee the Aurelie ever gaining the same notoriety as the SATC-sanctioned rabbit because it isn’t designed to provide the external clitoral stimulation the majority of vulva owners crave. However, this dual stimulator def deserves a place in the collections of those who go nuts for vaginal penetration.
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