Heroes all the time, but especially in the wake of a pandemic that made parenting infinitely more challenging, mothers have perhaps never been more worthy of a day celebrating them. And sure, if you’re a mother, you might suspect that the loved ones in your life will show their appreciation this Mother’s Day, May 8, with gifts. But, when it comes down to it, no one knows you and your desires and needs the way that you do. And that’s why it’s high time you get yourself a Mother’s Day gift you actually want—like one that puts your sexual pleasure and self-care back up on the pedestal where it belongs.

Chances are, the demands of motherhood have led you to lose track of yourself at one time or another, or to prioritize others ahead of even your most basic needs. And often, one of the first things to fall by the wayside is sexual wellness. “Mother’s Day should serve as a reminder that mothers are human beings, and as humans, sexual wellness is a need, even and especially for mothers who often lose touch with their sensuality,” says Natasha Marie, sexual-wellness expert and head of content at sex-toy company MysteryVibe.

“Mother’s Day can be used as a time to reclaim parts of yourself that you may have sacrificed, including your sexual health and wellness.” —Lyndsey Harper, MD, gynecologist

Not only is having sex—whether partnered or solo—a biological need, but also, it’s a proven route to reducing stress and anxiety and improving sleep quality, all of which can be of particular benefit to over-worked and under-slept moms (aka most moms, if we’re being real). And even beyond that, sex and pleasure are key components of who you are as a person, says gynecologist Lyndsey Harper, MD, founder and CEO of sexual-wellness platform Rosy: “Mother’s Day can be used as a time to reclaim these parts of yourself that you may have sacrificed and reaffirm your identity as a deserving and whole individual.”

In that realm, buying yourself a Mother’s Day gift that supports you in your sexual journey isn’t selfish; it’s an act of self love and an exceptional way to put yourself first—particularly in a role that often requires you to do anything but. Despite these societal expectations, it’s important to remember: “Motherhood does not need to be synonymous with martyrdom,” says Marie. And what better way to challenge that norm than by giving yourself a sexy Mother’s Day gift for you, and you alone.

Here are 9 sexy gifts you absolutely deserve to get yourself this Mother’s Day

Foria Intimacy Bath Salts with CBD & Cacao — $52.00

Taking a bath is often prized as the epitome of self-care for a reason: It’s typically done solo and serves no other purpose beyond cleansing both mind and body. Sure, you could do it without anything other than warm water—but why not dial things up a notch with these sensual bath salts from sexual-wellness brand Foria? The Epsom and Himalayan salt base is infused with hemp, rose, and cacao for what is basically a botanical cacophony of relaxation in a jar. As a bonus? Foria is offering 30 percent off site-wide from 4/26 to 4/28 and free expedited shipping on 4/29 and 4/30.

Bloomi Desire Sensual Pleasure Oil — $20.00

A mixture of soothing oils like coconut and passionflower seed, along with herbal aphrodisiacs like damiana, makes this pleasure oil a simple and sensual way to level up sensations during sex (whether that’s solo or with a partner). Glide on a few pumps externally, and get busy. (Just take note: The oils could break down latex condoms and silicone sex toys, so proceed with caution in either case.)

Zalo Kyro Wand Massager — $129.00

Nothing says, “I’m prioritizing myself” quite like this ultra-luxurious vibrator from Zalo—a veritable temple to pleasure. It leaves no element of sexual sensation unaddressed: This wand has five different pulse options and six speeds, and it comes with two silicone attachments (one for sensitive areas and one for the G-spot). Not to mention, it’s as stunning to look at as it is powerful to play with—which just makes it all the worthier of a personal splurge. If you add to cart from 5/1 to 5/8, you’ll also get 25 percent off with the code FORMOM25.

Kate McLeod Sex Stone — $45.00

Do your sexual routine and the environment a favor with this solid moisturizer-meets-lubricant hybrid (no plastic packaging here!). Plant-based butters like cocoa butter infused with argan oil make up its formulation, which softens and melts on contact. Warm it in your hands and glide it over skin as a massage tool, or ask your partner to do the same; the trail of moisture it leaves behind doubles as lubrication…wherever you might need (or want) it.

The Bawdy Oil — $75.00

There’s just something about a body oil that feels like a special treat—something that goes beyond what a pump of moisturizer can really deliver, experience-wise. And that’s never been more true than with this luxe botanical-infused body oil, which packs 300 mg of full-spectrum CBD to help relax and calm muscles, too. The formulation is silky and non-greasy with a scent that’s just musky enough to feel rich, not overwhelming.

Lelo Flickering Touch Massage Candle — $35.00

The sexy allure of this massage candle starts with its sultry looks and scent, and continues all the way to its soft and luxurious feel, once the soy-wax base has melted into an oil you’ll want to slather all over yourself. Its aroma is either sweet or spicy, depending which one you choose; for the former, go for the Vanilla & Creme de Cacao, and for the latter, Snow Pear & Cedarwood, or Black Pepper & Pomegranate.

Fleur de Mal Angel Sleeve Robe — $295.00

The literal definition of something you can wear “from the sheets to the streets,” this robe is 92-percent silk (and 8-percent spandex) for an ultra-chic look and feel. Wear it as a blazer for dinner out…or slip it on at home with nothing underneath as the sexy precursor to a night of self-care. It’s giving nothing short of goddess vibes—and that’s exactly the headspace you deserve to be in this Mother’s Day.

Maude Shine Silicone — $25.00

The slipperier the sex, the better (usually). And this silicone-based lube from Maude will have you slip-sliding your way to O-land in no time. (But, if it does take you some time to get there, rest assured this stuff will also last for the long haul.) Its formulation is clear, odorless, and non-sticky, so it’ll leave you feeling as fresh post-climax as you were before things heated up.

MysteryVibe Crescendo — $183.00

What better Mother’s Day gift than a vibrator that, just like you, does it all? This toy has a design that bends, so it can reach any number of erogenous zones while mimicking the flexion of human fingers (though its six motors give it a rumble that’ll easily put finger movements to shame). It also has 16 power settings for the ultimate level of customization and can be controlled by an app, if you’d rather go hands-free—or put a partner to work from afar. And it’s currently 20 percent off through May 25.

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