‘I’m a Relationship Therapist, and These 16 Valentine’s Day Gifts Are on My List’

The notion of Valentine’s Day is often embraced in a polarizing way; it’s either loved or hated, largely depending on the relationship status of whomever you ask. That makes sense, too, considering so much marketing for the occasion is clearly geared for couples. But what a missed opportunity; as a sex and relationship therapist, it’s my opinion that any reason to celebrate love—whether solo, partnered, or otherwise—is a win. And there are so many products and gifts that you can give anyone in your life (including yourself) to further that message.

While some of my favorite Valentine’s Day gifts are oriented for folks in romantic partnerships, most can be used solo or partnered. Because even though mainstream society specifies that Valentine’s Day is a holiday for lovers, I’m of the opinion that it’s more simply a holiday to love—and that can certainly mean spoiling ourselves.

So, without further ado, check out my favorite Valentine’s Day gifts, as a relationship therapist, to spice up whatever kind of holiday you are having.

16 Valentine’s Day gifts that a relationship therapist approves

Promptly Journals, Loom Couples Journal — $38.00

This journal is an excellent option for reconnecting with your partner in a new way, getting to know a new partner, or exploring deeper depths of an existing relationship. It contains three research-backed prompts each that are meant to be filled out once a week, and make way for new meaningful conversations—from “I think you’re good at ____” to “If I could have any talent in the world it would be _____.” Sprinkled with tips for enhancing your connection and memorable romance quotes along the way, working with the Loom Journal will easily be the highlight of your week

WeVibe, Date Night Set — $199.00

For good vibrations for two, this Date Night Set from WeVibe doesn’t disappoint—it includes the brand’s Nova 2 rabbit vibrator and Pivot penis ring. The Nova delivers dual stimulation, 10 powerful vibration modes, and a flexible fit so you can play your way. While the Pivot brings pleasure-boosting vibrations and a comfy, stretchy fit to the bedroom, intensifying orgasm and sustaining erections. What’s more, both toys can be operated via the WeVibe app so couples can experience the toys together or apart.

Getaway House Stay — $99.00

Rates start at $99/night 

If you’re looking for a romantic getaway, you can’t go wrong booking a Getaway House. The gorgeous tiny cabins have locations all throughout the U.S., and are tucked away in nature, with walking trails and outdoor wonders just a few steps away. Equipped with a two-burner stove, a gorgeous photo-worthy lookout, a fire pit and grill (with all the fire wood you could need), pots, pans, and all your personal care essentials—this is a one-of-a-kind escape perfect for couples and solo trips alike.

APL, Techloom Pro Sneakers in Red/White — $128.00

Originally $160, now $128 

Available sizes: 5-11

The red color of these APL sneakers feels like a very on-brand Valentine’s Day gift for anyone that loves running, walking, HIIT, and a good-looking sneaker. Designed with a flexible, stacked sole, breathable textile upper, cushioned footbed, and rounded toe box, these stylish sneakers are specially designed to keep feet feeling comfortable and supported, no matter your workout.

Colors: 9

Dame, Eva Vibrator — $135.00

The world’s first wearable couples vibrator, Dame’s hands-free Eva vibrator has a flexible, silicone design that can be worn on the vulva during partnered sex—and actually stays in place, so you can stay in the moment. The clitoral vibe has 3 intensity levels and patterns, is fully waterproof, and is USB-rechargeable for added convenience.

Lego, Flower Bouquet — $60.00

In lieu of real flowers, build your own bouquet with this floral Lego set. Building it doesn’t only make for a cute date night at home, it’s a great way to bond and engage in mindful, screen-free activity with your loved one. And even if you’re new to Legos, the set includes comprehensive, step-by-step instructions that anyone can follow with ease. Your inner child will thank you for this one.

Dedcool, 01 “Taunt” Massage Candle — $55.00

This Dedcool Massage Candle is a Valentine’s Day gift that sets the mood in more ways than one. With notes of bergamot, amber, and vanilla, it has a warming, comforting scent that’ll help you relax and unwind—paving the way for quality time with your partner. The best part, though? The melted wax is the ultimate massage oil, just let it melt, blow out the flame, and let it cool slightly, before treating your partner to an intimate massage.

Parade, Royalty 2-Piece Set — $71.00

Whether you’re planning on staying in on Valentine’s Day, or just want to spice up your sleepwear game, this 2-piece set from Parade is a solid choice. Complete with a matching slip dress and long robe, the Royalty Set brings equal parts comfort and sexiness to your bedtime routine. The luxe satin material is made of recycled fibers, for a silky soft feel you’ll want to wear all night long. Plus, I’m a huge believer that when we feel good in what we are wearing, it helps us feel better and sexier. Meaning, you deserve to buy yourself something sexy just because it makes you feel good. And you can certainly extend that same kindness to loved ones.

We're Not Really Strangers Game Couples Edition — $20.00

The We’re Not Really Strangers Game is fantastic for folks in any relationship dynamic. But this special edition for couples is specially designed to deepen connection and understanding between partners, whether you’ve been together for three weeks or three years. With questions like “What do you think my perfect date night would be?” and “What do we have in this relationship that you never thought was possible?” This Valentine’s Day-ready edition will uncover new things to love and admire about the person you love most.

Cuup, The Plunge Bra in Fuschia — $68.00

Cuup released its best-selling Plunge and Balconette Bras in new, limited edition color ways for Valentine’s Day, and this fuschia number is a perfect, festive and feminine pick. The deep-v silhouette is simple, but sexy—and unlike more elaborate pieces of lingerie, is comfortable enough to wear everyday. The sheer mesh material adds sexiness and support for all cup sizes, and the lightweight underwire never digs at skin, which is key.

Date Night In: An Activity Journal for Couples — $18.00

This fun activity journal is a great option for couples who are planning to stay in this Valentine’s Day. The quirky, illustrated couple’s workbook includes quizzes, drawing prompts, and written exercises all designed to teach you more about your partner and strengthen your connection. Order a pizza, grab a pencil, pour yourself a drink, and prepare for laughable, blush-worthy convos to ensue.

Maude, Shine Organic Lubricant — $25.00

Maude’s best-selling organic lubricant is made with all-natural, moisturizing aloe, giving you an ultra-hydrating experience, with the perfect amount of slip and zero stickiness. The organic, pH balanced formula is latex-friendly, compatible with your favorite toys, and rinses away easily with warm water to make washing up even easier. Plus, the bottle looks good enough to leave on your nightstand.

East Olivia, The Olivia Medium Dried Floral Bouquet — $125.00

To really get your money’s worth on Valentine’s Day flowers, opt for a dried bouquet that’ll stand the test of time, and remind your partner of how you feel about them every time they see them. This whimsical dried bouquet includes fuzzy bunny tails, pampas grass, and sun palm fans in dreamy pink tones that’ll bring color to your Valentine’s space and brighten up their day. It even comes with a ceramic vase, so it’s ready to gift!

Foria, Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD — $48.00

This Foria Arousal Oil uses broad-spectrum CBD, sourced from organically grown hemp, to help soothe the body and enhance pleasurable sensation during intimate moments. Specially formulated for vulvas, the organic oil is free of synthetic fragrance, parabens, phthalates, petroleum, sulfates, alcohol, and gluten—and can be used externally and internally to help unwind the senses and boost pleasure for an enhanced sexual experience. Just note that it’s not compatible with toys, latex or polyisoprene toys.

Lelo, Dot — $143.00

Originally $179, now $143

While traditional vibrators may numb the area around the clitoris—which makes achieving more than one orgasm a challenge—Lelo’s clitoral pinpoint vibrator simply doesn’t miss (no pun intended). The toy’s soft, bendy, and precise tip delivers 8 vibration patterns that range in intensity from a buzzy whisper to rumbling pulses. What’s more, the unique shape makes it comfortable to use during partnered sex and solo sessions alike.

Milk + Honey, Bath Bomb Trio — $15.00

I love a bath bomb, whether it’s for solo recoup time or a partnered bath sesh. The perk of this bath bomb set is that they’re all made using aromatherapeutic oils that help support relaxation and deeper connection in the bath. Including three different scent options to choose from, there’s fragrance to relax, comfort, and uplift the senses.

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